Relationships are a difficult thing; at least I know I have a hard time with them. They always start out with a gitty feeling, and end with a pit in the stomach. But between the gitty puppy love, and the pit full hurt of a breakup, is something beautiful. The idea that two people can go through so many things together, and grow and learn so much, is something worth experiencing.
While I haven't reached a point where I am ready to commit my time and life to another person, I can say that I have had the joys of experiencing relationships; and I have to admit, they have all taught me so much. One thing I have learned is that you can't help who you care about, your heart just pulls you and places you there. When you find someone that is worth going through the ups and the downs with, stick to them. And if it comes time to let go, hold on to all the things the relationship taught you.
I have been lucky enough to go through some wild, crazy, fun, and yet extremely hard times in my most recent relationship. One thing I keep telling myself over and over is "its all worth it, when I look into his eyes, know that we have each other, and know that no matter what we are both growing... its all worth it, and I am learning." I don't know where I will be or who I will be with in the future, but I know where I am now, is exactly where I need and want to be.
This morning I was in a sap-romance/bluesy mood and I came across a great song- Natalie Cole "I love him so much." This song is gorgeous, heart felt, and powerful. And even if you can't relate it to a significant other (shout out to all my single ladies!!) there are still people in each of our lives that we love, unconditionally, and that's something worth singing about :)
Natalie Cole - Love Him So Much
Today we broke up, tomorrow we'll make u
And again he'll hang up on me
But you see I know he'll never hurt me
I know he'll never desert me
And so I just say that's my man anyway
Tonight we'll love plenty, tomorrow maybe not any
But I'm sure he'll come through just in time
And to me he's more than just a man
He's my life so I understand why things has got to be his way
And I love him so much, so much 'til it hurts me
Yes, I do, so much, so much 'til it hurts me
He makes me cry when I wanna laugh sometimes
His moods, they keep changing all the time
But I know just where his head is when it's not laying on top of mine
His world is not so different and you may not believe
But I'm sure you'd understand him if you were me
And that's why this world can't look and frown
But I'll never let him down
That is my man and he means the world to me
And I love him so much, so much 'til it hurts me
Yes, I love him so much, so much 'til it hurts me
Oh (so much, so much 'til it hurts me)
I love him so (so much, so much 'til it hurts me) much
So much, so much--
A look inside the dreams of a daring soul desiring to be nothing more than exactly who she is.
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Emotional Stability
Be pleasant until ten o'clock in the morning and the rest of the day will take care of itself. ~Elbert Hubbard
Interesting concept isn't it... but isn't it true that each day is a new day, and with each day we hold the power to decide right from the time we wake up, what type of day it will be? This morning I watched an amazing Joyce Myers video on Emotional Stability. Joyce brought up many valid points that in order to be happy and get out of our own ups and downs we have to start making habits of waking up with a good attitude.
In the video Joyce made this following statement:
"Instead of getting up in the morning and meditating about what is wrong with everybody in your house, and everything on your body that aches, how much money you don’t have, what all your friends have but you wish you had, and how everybody mistreats you and takes advantage of you, and how you are sick and tired of this and sick and tired of that…. Come on’ you can talk yourself into a rotten mood before you are even fully awake."
As I listened to her preach, I couldn't help but think "God dammit... that's me right there." I look back on all the days that I have counted as "bad" and realize that my mood was shitty from the moment my alarm clock went off and I rolled out of bed. We get the opportunity to set the tone for the day right from the beginning. It's so easy to sit back and complain without even realizing that we are being negative. So if we are so use to allowing ourselves to be negative, how do we change?
In order to break the bad habit of negativity we must become completely and utterly alert of every negative thought that we let enter into our minds. We must stop the negativity at the root of the problem. This requires a lot of meditation and a lot of self-discipline; however, making new habits is never easy. Take it one day at a time. Constantly listen to your thoughts and then slowly comeback with a positive thought for all your negative thoughts, and last but not least, STICK TO IT! You can't form new habit and become a positive person over night. You have to continually work on yourself and remind yourself that you are human and are bound to make mistakes. Appreciate who you are, catch yourself when negativity comes, and combat it with a new outlook.
CHALLENGE: Stay positive until 10am... watch how your morning goes... I promise if you are overly positive until 10am an "ah ha!" moment will occur, and you will realize how much better the day feels just simply because you started it off in a good mood. Now watch the rest of the day unfold :)
To learn more on Emotional Stability watch the Joyce Myers film at this link:
http://www.joycemeyer.org/ourministries/broadcast/
(If the video does not automatically pop-up, there is a bunch of video thumb nails at the bottom of the web page, choose "Emotional Stability")
Interesting concept isn't it... but isn't it true that each day is a new day, and with each day we hold the power to decide right from the time we wake up, what type of day it will be? This morning I watched an amazing Joyce Myers video on Emotional Stability. Joyce brought up many valid points that in order to be happy and get out of our own ups and downs we have to start making habits of waking up with a good attitude.
In the video Joyce made this following statement:
"Instead of getting up in the morning and meditating about what is wrong with everybody in your house, and everything on your body that aches, how much money you don’t have, what all your friends have but you wish you had, and how everybody mistreats you and takes advantage of you, and how you are sick and tired of this and sick and tired of that…. Come on’ you can talk yourself into a rotten mood before you are even fully awake."
As I listened to her preach, I couldn't help but think "God dammit... that's me right there." I look back on all the days that I have counted as "bad" and realize that my mood was shitty from the moment my alarm clock went off and I rolled out of bed. We get the opportunity to set the tone for the day right from the beginning. It's so easy to sit back and complain without even realizing that we are being negative. So if we are so use to allowing ourselves to be negative, how do we change?
In order to break the bad habit of negativity we must become completely and utterly alert of every negative thought that we let enter into our minds. We must stop the negativity at the root of the problem. This requires a lot of meditation and a lot of self-discipline; however, making new habits is never easy. Take it one day at a time. Constantly listen to your thoughts and then slowly comeback with a positive thought for all your negative thoughts, and last but not least, STICK TO IT! You can't form new habit and become a positive person over night. You have to continually work on yourself and remind yourself that you are human and are bound to make mistakes. Appreciate who you are, catch yourself when negativity comes, and combat it with a new outlook.
CHALLENGE: Stay positive until 10am... watch how your morning goes... I promise if you are overly positive until 10am an "ah ha!" moment will occur, and you will realize how much better the day feels just simply because you started it off in a good mood. Now watch the rest of the day unfold :)
To learn more on Emotional Stability watch the Joyce Myers film at this link:
http://www.joycemeyer.org/ourministries/broadcast/
(If the video does not automatically pop-up, there is a bunch of video thumb nails at the bottom of the web page, choose "Emotional Stability")
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
And this is what true friends look like...
True friends won't stop you from jumping out of an air plane - they will strap on a chute and say "let's fuckin' do this!"
She's got beauty - From the inside out.
Beauty... the one word that every girl can't help but strive for, wish to feel, and want to be defined by. What a simple word with so much power. But what is beauty? And where does the decision lie with who and what gets the privilege of applying that desirable adjective? Webster does a great job at defining beauty:
I look at this definition and the first thing that stands out to me is this - "pleasing and impressive." Pleasing and impressive.... to who?! If there is one thing I have learned in my life, its that life in itself is beautiful. We are ALL pleasing and impressive. Now, I know there are times when maybe I have not been so pleasing... or maybe what I have said or done has fallen more than short of impressive; but I refuse to believe that those times stole my beauty.
We are defined not by the way we look or but by the person we are. What makes us who we are is our thoughts, actions, and surroundings. The definition of beauty states that it can be applied to looks, sound, touch, smell, taste... anything! Therefore, there has to be a bit of beauty in each of us; at least somewhere. Yet what some consider beautiful- others may look straight through.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Isn't that how the saying goes?
So behold it. Be beautiful. Be you. Dream it, dare to accomplish it, and desire to live it. If you yourself believe you hold beauty- then who's to say you don't?
beau·ty [ bytee ]
- pleasing and impressive qualities of something: the combination of qualities that make something pleasing and impressive to look at, listen to, touch, smell, or taste
I look at this definition and the first thing that stands out to me is this - "pleasing and impressive." Pleasing and impressive.... to who?! If there is one thing I have learned in my life, its that life in itself is beautiful. We are ALL pleasing and impressive. Now, I know there are times when maybe I have not been so pleasing... or maybe what I have said or done has fallen more than short of impressive; but I refuse to believe that those times stole my beauty.
We are defined not by the way we look or but by the person we are. What makes us who we are is our thoughts, actions, and surroundings. The definition of beauty states that it can be applied to looks, sound, touch, smell, taste... anything! Therefore, there has to be a bit of beauty in each of us; at least somewhere. Yet what some consider beautiful- others may look straight through.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Isn't that how the saying goes?
So behold it. Be beautiful. Be you. Dream it, dare to accomplish it, and desire to live it. If you yourself believe you hold beauty- then who's to say you don't?